Rely not on ourselves

“…we were so utterly burdened beyond our strength that we despaired of life itself. Indeed, we felt that we had received the sentence of death. But that was to make us rely not on ourselves but on God who raises the dead.

2 Corinthians 1:8-9

What does it mean for a husband to be “the head of the wife”?

Headship implies laying down one’s life to serve another. The apostle Paul could not have made this clearer when he said:

Ephesians 5:23-24 For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church… wives should submit to their husbands in everything. (25) Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her…

The Bible always explains that by headship it means acting like Christ. The Lord Jesus constantly knows our every need, our every thought, our every feeling. He literally understands us better than we understand ourselves. Not only that, our crucified Lord spares no pain or effort or humiliation to satisfy our needs and bring us comfort. Our eternal happiness means everything to him. He guides, and yet allows us to make mistakes. He has power, but never abuses it.

Guidance stemming from a passion to thoroughly know your wife as Christ knows you, and a sacrificial devotion to her happiness, is what the Bible means by being the head. It means Christlike gentleness and selfless preoccupation with identifying and meeting a loved one’s needs.

from Marriage Counseling? No Way!

Practical Peacemaking

From Ken Sande’s Resolving Everyday Conflict

Peacemaking applies the gospel and God’s principles for problem-solving to everyday life. Practical peacemaking involves asking four important questions, four questions answered by principles called the 4 Gs. They are:

How can I focus on God in a situation?
G1 – Glorify God.

How can I own my part in this conflict?
G2 – Get the log out of your eye.

How can I help others own their contribution to this conflict?
G3 – Gently restore.

How can I give forgiveness and help reach a reasonable solution?
G4 – Go and be reconciled.